I'm still too annoyed to write about visit two so I'm going to write something that references the title and goal, of this blog. To focus and point to the "Light".
Throughout this time of transition, while we struggle with parenting Middle-one and comforting and protecting Bright-eyes, it becomes more obvious that Ebear is healing.
He is not pulled in by Middle-one's behaviors and attempts to create chaos. He aligns himself with us now, embracing our family's values. He reminds the other two that mom and dad are in charge and that they should listen/obey/stop etc.
We are not only able to let Ebear be our eyes and ears but he even politely offers to watch the younger boys if we are busy. He comforts us when we are sad and encourages us when we are getting frustrated. He is becoming a very healthy and stable young man who is learning how to have good relationships and communicate without manipulation.
I am watching this new dynamic with increasing gratitude and overcoming joy. Healing IS possible!!!!!!!!!