Friday, April 09, 2010


Someone posed a question on a Christian, homeschooling, forum that I am a member of. She simply asked what we thought of this story
... I think all who know me would have no doubt that I would have some thoughts on the subject. Here they are, in expanded version...

I'm thinking that Russia needs to wake up, take some responsibility and quit lying about the emotional disabilities of these children. Honestly, what do they expect.

I think they should also start offering some help... but then that takes money.

I'm thinking that it's beyond tragic that there are no real services available to families who adopt internationally and find themselves home with a child who is damaged. Therapy and residential treatment are often not covered by insurance and many families have no help.

I'm wondering what that mom's life was like... both with her child and with her community. Was she judged? Was she supported? Was she accused? Was she helped?

I'm thinking that is SO MUCH of this story not told in the article.

I'm thinking that the adoption process is a long, exhausting, expensive road and this woman spent a year or more of her life preparing to be this little boy's mother. She had dreams and hopes and she is also heartbroken.

I'm thinking that she was also finger-printed, interviewed, checked and checked again and was found to be a trustworthy and competent parent.

I'm thinking that I know this child. I would recognize the dark look in his eyes and the behavior that cries LOVE ME!!/DON'T LOVE ME!!!. I'm so deeply heart-wretchedly sad, for that child because . I understand him because I held a child just like him today in therapy. I know in his heart of hearts he yearns to be loved but he is soooooooooooo scared because rejection is like death and while he might have made it impossible for his mom to love him, he now has been rejected again.

I'm thinking that this might have been his last chance, but I hope not. I hope and pray that the God who knows the plans HE has for us, plans to give us hope and a future, to prosper us and not to harm us, will redeem this precious little life and give him a chance to love and be loved. It won't be easy, but he is a God of miracles and HE is able to do all thing.

I'm thinking...What a horrible tragedy. There were probably so many things that could have changed the outcome, so many turns in this road that could have followed a different path. I wonder why it happened.

I also think that I am blessed beyond blessed to have the support services that I have (due to domestic foster-care adoption) because that could me you just read about.


Lisa said...

Ditto to everything you said. Thank you for this post.

MomInTheTrench said...

Wonderful post.